We talk about empowerment. Standing in our power. Taking back our power.
And those are all true statements. The bottom line is, most women are afraid of power because we fear abusing it. We are overly sensitive to someone disliking our use of power.
At some point, we have to accept that someone else may not like our decisions, but that doesn't make us wrong. "They" may be wrong and want "their" way.
Most women I know who are hesitant about "standing in their power" are really saying "I don't want to hurt someone, maybe they're right and I'm wrong, it's easier for ME to stand back and make 'them' happy, then there's peace."
True, there may be peace - and we all ultimately want peace - but at what cost? Surrendering to another person's demands/desires doesn't always mean peace. Short term, yes. But are you setting yourself up for continually backing down? Are you going to feel peaceful down the road, when you no longer have any say in the matter? I think not.
The women I know who worry about misusing power, are never the ones that abuse it. They've generally over-thought their decision and have looked at the issue from everyone's point of view. And by the time they do make a decision, they're exhausted.
This is a good time to use the "Let go and let God," phrase. You've thoughtfully considered options, and your decision is valid.
